Betrayed by boyfriend and adult website?
So I’ve been w/ my boyfriend for 7 yrs. 4 of which we lived together. Now he has taken a job in orlando and says he wants me to live there w/ him once he saves money which would be in a month or 2. I went to visit after he had been there 2 weeks to see if i liked it. We got along good for the most part except i found a website that he has had for 9 months that is used to find people to have sex w/. On there i found pics of him naked, and msgs he had sent while we were together. He also has a head line that says he just moved to orlando and if lookin for females to hang out w/. I deleted all the pics and friends and didnt say anything yet. I have been distant. He logged on today and now he knows i know. he has not called today. well first would you dump him. and how would you do it if you did. also i want to know if you think this relationship is worth saving and how i would go about doing so. thanks for your help.
i had a right because he took them in our bedroom and you could see our bed in the background u would have done the same
Don’t bother with trying to save it. It wasn’t a one-time mistake, this required effort and a complete lack of caring on his part. Do him a favor and cut him loose. Contact a lawyer and have papers drawn up. Send them to him wherever he is and be done with it. There are men out there who won’t do this type of crap.
um, yes i would dump him… why is this not clear in your mind? he has naked pictures of himself on what i imagine is probably adult friend finder, and his headline says he is looking for girls? duh.
you caught your boyfriend red handed in attempts to be unfaithful and cheat on you, and you want to save your relationship with him? after he has gone behind your back in such a devastating way?
Yes dump him and move on with your life. He is a player or want-a -be.
E-mail him evrything you want to tell him then forget him.
Not worth saving, You cant trust him. Its a shame to have to waste that many years but at least you can find someone faithful. I’d simply tell/text/e-mail him that its over and he should know the answer as to why
Two things here. First: You had absolutely NO right to delete any of the pictures or friends he had on that website. Second: End the relationship. He is looking for another woman, and he has been doing so for the last 9 months, if not longer. Cut your losses and get on with your life.
I guess I’m not sure why you would even consider staying with him. He is dishonest, cheats, perverted, sexually explicit………ok, what am I missing here? Sounds like a catch to me.
I realize this must be extremely painful for you; however, simply put, you can’t trust him. Furthermore, he is taking risks with his own life that could have a negative impact on yours. That is absolutely not showing you the love and respect or concern for your health that you deserve from the man that says he loves you.
Dump that loser. Find another guy. There are plenty of decent ones left. I hate when people settle for less and end up unhappy.
Yes, I would definitely dump him. Why would you want to stay with him? He’s not faithful and he could bring you a disease. If you are back home, wherever that is, there’s nothing you really need to do except stop communication with him. If he calls, hang up. Don’t call him. Don’t see him. He’ll know what is going on. Besides, why should you even have to tell him you’re dumping him. Let him figure it out. Forget about him and all the pain and heartache he would have brought to your life.
are you nuts? yes you should dump him. what are you waiting for a nice case of aids?
he knows you know, just don’t talk to him any more, he will know why.
DUMP him! What else ??!!
Yep, dump him. He’s a pathetic wanna be player.
You’ve been playing house for 7 years. That in and of itself should have been a sign that you were headed nowhere a long time ago.
This man has serious sex issues and needs counseling.
RUN!!! Who knows how many women he has slept with over the years. I can assure you that this has probably been going on the entire time you’ve been together. If not the entire time, then a good deal of the time. He is a rat who will never be true, no matter how much he “promises” as he is too addicted to his behavior.
How to dump him? Confront him, either in person or on the phone, and let him know you are FINISHED as you will not stay with anyone who sleeps around, period.
Be VERY thankful you found out NOW and not after you were married or had kids!!!
He has not called because he is thinking up lies and how he is going to extricate himself from this situation and talk you into believing him.
I would NOT see him again as he will try to get you to “forgive” him and stay together, he loves you so much, blah, blah, blah. Yeah, maybe he does love you, but he also loves his porn and his women, and his sexual fantasies, and his strange liaisons with women whom he doesn’t know, and the thrill of sex with other women, and the excitement of meeting someone new to “hook up” with, etc, etc.
RUN!!!!!
I agree with Cham… the fact that you’ve been together for 7 years without a commitment is very telling of this guy’s priorities.
NO the relationship isn’t worth saving. He’s a liar and a cheat, why would you want to save it?
He also is putting his health and yours at risk by being promiscuous. Again, NOT worth it.
Go and find someone who can commit to you and be HONEST to you about what he’s doing.
Good luck.
I think you know what you should do but it sometimes takes someone else to say it. He totally betrayed your trust and disrespected your relationship. When he was caught, he didn’t even come to you and confess or to offer an apology. You will be less stressed without this relationship and you can focus on yourself. He’s not worth it. Give yourself a SHORT time to get over him– have an ice cream & movie night, a spa day, throw away/sell all of the gifts he gave (especially the jewelry).
Are you seriously asking if you should try to save this relationship? what’s there to save?